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How to Find Respectful Guests Who Return Year After Year

Joan Talmadge | Updated 12/12/2025
How to Find Respectful Guests Who Return Year After Year

For most vacation rental owners, the ultimate goal is simple: welcome guests who enjoy your home, treat your property with care, leave it in excellent condition, and want to return every season.

The good news? Attracting high-quality, respectful guests isn’t about luck—it’s about the systems you put in place long before the booking is confirmed.

Below are proven strategies to screen guests effectively, set clear expectations, and build trust that leads to repeat bookings.


Start With a Conversation—Phone or Digital

On many large booking platforms, guests and hosts are required to communicate exclusively through the site. Direct contact information is withheld, and any attempt to move conversations off-platform is discouraged or blocked. Because of this, many vacationers have become accustomed to quick, hands-off messaging rather than personal conversations.

WeNeedaVacation operates differently. As soon as an inquiry is submitted, both the homeowner and the vacationer receive each other’s contact information. This transparency empowers you to build trust early and engage in whatever communication style feels most comfortable for both parties.

A phone call is still highly recommended, especially for first-time guests, because speaking voice-to-voice allows you to evaluate communication style, clarify expectations, and ensure your home is the right fit.

For property owners, trust comes from feeling confident that guests will respect your home and follow your rental rules.
For guests, trust comes from knowing they’re renting from a responsive, knowledgeable owner who can represent the home accurately.

That said, many vacationers—particularly those used to platforms like Airbnb—may prefer starting with email or text. That’s perfectly fine. A brief phone call can still be offered as an option rather than a requirement. Even a short conversation, when both parties are willing, can eliminate misunderstandings, answer questions more efficiently, and reinforce a thoughtful, mutually respectful booking process.

Whether the initial communication happens by phone or by message, the goal remains the same: establishing rapport, confirming expectations, and ensuring everyone feels confident moving forward.


Ask Specific, Open-Ended Questions

An effective guest-screening conversation should feel natural but purposeful. Use open-ended questions to learn about their plans and ensure your rental is the right fit:

  • “Have you visited [your town or island] before?”
  • “Are you familiar with the location of our home?”
  • “What type of vacation experience are you hoping for?”

Clarify the composition of their group, including the number of adults, ages of children, and any special considerations. Understanding whether they’re looking for a family-friendly rental, a quiet getaway, a luxury vacation home, or a beach cottage close to activities helps you determine whether your property aligns with their expectations.

If they don’t know the area well, give a concise, honest overview. Guests often make assumptions about proximity to the beach, downtown, or amenities—assumptions that can become problems if left unaddressed.


Be Transparent About Flaws or Drawbacks

One of the most effective ways to attract respectful, satisfied guests is to set accurate expectations from the start.

If your home has a feature that could affect their stay, disclose it openly—both in your listing description and in your direct communication with vacationers. Listing these details upfront helps ensure that guests who inquire already understand the unique characteristics of your home, reducing the chance of mismatched expectations.

Common examples include:

  • A busy or high-traffic road nearby
  • A steep or spiral staircase
  • An open loft instead of a fully enclosed bedroom
  • Limited parking or accessibility challenges
  • Lack of air conditioning, or A/C only in certain rooms
  • Smaller bedrooms or bathrooms than guests may expect
  • Outdoor spaces shared with neighbors

Clear disclosure of these characteristics in the listing makes guests feel informed and respected, and reinforcing them during communication prevents surprises. Vacationers appreciate honesty, and they remember it. Transparency reduces complaints, avoids negative reviews, and helps ensure that the guests who choose your rental are doing so for the right reasons.


Pay Attention to Red Flags

Most inquiries are straightforward—but sometimes the booking process reveals issues that shouldn’t be ignored. Common guest red flags for vacation rental owners include:

  • Delays in paying the deposit or signing the lease
  • Excessive questioning, nitpicking, or challenging the rental agreement
  • Requests for discounts, freebies, or special treatment you don’t offer
  • Attempts to renegotiate terms after agreeing to them
  • High-maintenance communication patterns before the stay even begins

These behaviors often escalate, not diminish, once guests arrive. Identifying red flags early helps you avoid costly headaches later.


Trust Your Instincts

Nearly every homeowner who has dealt with a problematic rental has said, “I had a bad feeling from the beginning.” Your intuition is a valuable tool in the guest-screening process.

If something feels off, it’s not only acceptable but wise to decline the booking. Be polite and professional, and if appropriate, explain why your home may not meet their needs.

Remember: protecting your property, your peace of mind, and your long-term rental success is far more important than filling a single week.


The Bottom Line: Great Guests Come From Great Processes

Finding respectful, repeat guests is not a matter of luck—it’s the result of clear communication, honest expectations, and thoughtful guest screening.

When you establish a simple, consistent process for evaluating inquiries, you attract renters who value your home, treat it with care, and look forward to returning year after year.


About Joan Talmadge

About Joan Talmadge: What began in 1996 as a way for Jeff and me to rent our Cape vacation home soon grew into WeNeedaVacation—and an entirely new career for me after years in education and publishing. Nearly three decades later, we're still at it, now with a wonderfully talented team and two of our children working alongside us. We live on the Cape year round, and it truly is magical in every season.